This level of ‘love’ is characterised by a lack of discrimination in chosen partners. The worst examples of this behaviour can be seen on shows like Jeremy Kyle or Jerry Springer. When people go on these shows they have often met through social media, got pregnant within weeks or even days of meeting, switch partners when they are on ‘a break’, which might just be overnight, and seem to enjoy the attention they get from arguing about their partner and the relationship on national television.
What fascinates me about this type of relationship is that when warring couples are asked why they are still together often whilst being held back by the security staff, they say ‘ but we love each other’. This is because they are used to an impoverished template of love. Continue reading
Do you want to have more power? Do you want to have more influence with other people? Do you want have more control of your life? Do you want to achieve some goals that you never before thought possible? Well today I am going to tell you how to achieve all of those goals if … Continue reading
I used to have very negative beliefs about myself. My Mum was a worrier and always anxious about everything. In fact if she was not worrying she was worried that there was nothing to worry about. I learnt this behaviour – my head was my head and I was used to it – it was … Continue reading
The Ladder to Success – the Continuum of Interpersonal Skills I have been in the privileged position of working a number of clients for a very long time. When I started off a lot of the courses were related to personal development and management development but as time progressed they offered me the opportunity to … Continue reading
Negotiation – During a negotiation, how do I prevent-control my emotions (e.g. fear, anger, excessive happiness)? Well the simplest answer is that you don’t start from here! In the past when I was running negotiation skills workshops and pairs had to negotiate a very simple negotiation exercise I noticed that people who were passive very … Continue reading
This question reminds me of when I worked in a large drug company and did performance appraisal follow ups. When they described the behaviour of their staff I would often say ‘sounds as though they could do with an assertiveness course’. More often than not they would turn white, look distressed and say ‘but they … Continue reading
Although I blogged this 3 years ago – I think in the current climate it is worth publishing again. This is how real peace makers behave….. In the People Skills Revolution Handbook I include an interview with a CEO, who I had heard about through the grapevine, who I believed was working at the level … Continue reading