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Open the door to influence

As an executive coach, for the past 12 years I have been assisting clients to get different outcomes by using a very predictable and successful stage-by-stage model. I have called this approach ‘The cycle of influence’. After learning these skills people often achieve immediate results, after trying unsuccessfully to get things done for them by … Continue reading

Contents Page – The Evolution of Love – with links to all chapters

The book is a cumulative build so that one chapter builds on the previous one so that at the end there is a coherent story about relationships in the twenty first century. Having said that I have also written all the chapters in such a way that they can be ‘stand alone’ blogs. The list of contents and the date I posted each blog is below to help orientate you around the book. Continue reading

How to excel during a Competency Based Interview – the Life Book for Work

It is very likely that an organisation using competency based recruitment will have indicated that they will be using this approach right from the very beginning and it will be built into the early selection process as well as the interview. So once you have decided to apply for a position you should start to collect evidence from your experience to demonstrate that you have that skill. Continue reading

Why do you want this job? – How to answer this question in the interview – A Life Book for Work

If you have been in an interview which was over quickly and never seemed to ‘take off’ it is probably because you have answered this question poorly.

Without awareness of the rules of the ‘interview game’ most people answer this question badly and often reply with the equivalent of ‘well you are a warm and cuddly company and I think I would be happy here’.

If you answer the question like this you are not saying anything interesting, memorable or unique and you will also come across as self-interested. Continue reading

How to answer those pesky job interview questions – The Life Book for Work

Unless it is a completely different job from the ones you have done previously you should make your current job sound remarkably like the job you are being interviewed for. Look at the job specification and highlight all the similarities and common skills that are required in both jobs. Continue reading

Get that Job – How to impress at the interview

The first thing to understand is that although there seems to be an apparently limit less number of questions that could be asked there are really only three. And these are:

Can you do the job?

Do you want the job?

Will you fit in?

Every question you will be asked will address one of these three concerns. The strange thing is that most interviewers won’t even know this. Continue reading

The Rise of Fun – Impoverished Love – the Evolution of love

The Rise of ‘Fun’ Another form of impoverished love is what I would call ‘the rise of fun.’ I included it in the section on impoverished love because it describes behaviour which is impoverished – but it’s not love at all and makes no real pretence at love. After talking to many men on the … Continue reading

Impoverished Relationships – The Evolution of love

This level of ‘love’ is characterised by a lack of discrimination in chosen partners. The worst examples of this behaviour can be seen on shows like Jeremy Kyle or Jerry Springer. When people go on these shows they have often met through social media, got pregnant within weeks or even days of meeting, switch partners when they are on ‘a break’, which might just be overnight, and seem to enjoy the attention they get from arguing about their partner and the relationship on national television.

What fascinates me about this type of relationship is that when warring couples are asked why they are still together often whilst being held back by the security staff, they say ‘ but we love each other’. This is because they are used to an impoverished template of love. Continue reading

The Continuum Of Love – The Evolution of Love

Having read many books on relationships I realised that much of the information was conflicting and much of the advice was manipulative. Then I hit on the idea that the reason that the advice was conflicting is that they were talking about different types of relationships Once I realised this, I used the idea of … Continue reading

The Psychological Bingo Board and Relationships -The Evolution of Love

In my previous blog I talked about a concept called the Psychological Bingo Board and explained how we in effect programme our personality based on the behaviours and beliefs which enable us to get attention when we are growing up. The idea behind the Psychological Bingo Board is that we have within us potentially all … Continue reading

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